MAN vs WOMAN

Arguing with John for "anniversaries" or "holidays" perspective.

He HATES set-up special days, like Valentines day, Thanks Giving, or Christmas. He says he wants to show how much he cares about others on any other days, not because it's the day to do it. I know he's not good at giving presents or stuff like that. I know, so I learned to give up, or not to expect. I think he feels guilty of not doing enough by those day's coming up, that's why he hates those days. I'm not scared of our anniversary or Valentines day coming up. Why would I?

He loves traveling, and so am I. I enjoys planning but he never does it. One reason is he's busy and I have time. Even though I enjoy planning, I sometime feel like I'm the only one who's excited about it and John doesn't care much. I'm the only one searching around what's there, what's good, what to do. John listened me and talked about it if I tell him about it, but he won't join/help searching.

I remember he bought movie tickets for surprise for our 2nd anniversary trip. We visited Ashville, NC with planning of staying hotel and visiting but he secretly planed, searched and purchased the tickets to make me happy. That's the feeling I want. I can feel "oh he spent time and effort to make me happy" by his attitude.

Why would I care about this these days? I don't know. I don't think it's monthly hormone thingie. I feel rashes on my heart. Maybe I should quit thinking of it.